Pushing Yourself

WebAdmin • January 8, 2012
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I had a very decadent day today. Woke up at 11 AM (up writing till the wee hours of the morning), had a big breakfast, hung around in PJ’s, went for a measly half hour speed walk, and worked on my soon- to- be-(finally!)-published ebook, “Radically Raise Your Relationship IQ”. In my world, this day was total sloth. No chores, no major accomplishments, never even got dressed or went outside, other than for the measly walk! Just hung out doing my thing while my husband busily stacked wood all day, enjoying the balmy winter afternoon, and his industriousness. However, the sloth was soon to be interrupted by an obligatory attendance at a multimedia show in town.


Our son had given us the tickets as one of his Christmas gifts, so we had to haul ourselves out of our respective cocoons, get dressed and put on party faces for the Saturday night date. It required such a pushing of ourselves to do this, that we had a mini fight in the car en route to the new restaurant where we’d made a dinner reservation. The last person in the world I wanted to sit across a table from was my irritating husband.


We ended up having a lovely dinner, however, after making conciliatory gestures to each other, walked around Portsmouth, had a latte in a cafe, went to the show, ran into a wonderful old friend we hadn’t seen in ages, and had an absolutely terrific evening!


The moral of this little tidbit is that sometimes you just have to push yourself to get out of your comfort zone, get out of the house and make room for a surprise experience. You’ll never know what awaits you if you don’t.


Pushing myself to go to sleep,

Susan Lager


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