I’m Back! (And Refueled)

WebAdmin • March 20, 2012
A Black and White Poster With the Word Refuel — Portsmouth, NH — Lager Susan R

I know, it’s been two weeks with me incognito, unfortunately not hanging out sipping Pina Colada’s on a beach in the Caribbean. The much less lovely truth is that I’ve been getting my personal taxes ready for my accountant, working hours each day assembling documentation, and tabulating figures. I’d rather be tarred and feathered than endure this each year, so when I come up for air, I’m religious about rewarding myself and “refueling” with someone special. This time it was with my beloved “baby” sister, Laurelei, as I call her.


We spent more than four days yakking, shopping, site seeing, eating, speed walking, watching “Doc Martin” for hours on end, and yakking. Did I already mention that? It was pure heaven, partly because we’re very well aligned in interests, but mostly because we adore and enjoy each other. Whenever she leaves to return to New York City, I feel a weird mixture of sadness and fullness – not only in relation to all the food we ate, but mostly related to the joy of our connection.


I’m telling you this because I think it’s vital for everyone to have someone to “refuel” with. It doesn’t have to be a family member if your family is “vile” (as Doc Marin says). It just needs to be someone you enjoy who fills you with good energy, so you can go back to the grind of whatever you need to do with a sense of connection, and the experience of living well and fully.


What relationships refuel you?


Cheers,

Susan Lager


PS. The Wednesday, March 21st 8:30 PM Blogtalk Radio show has been rescheduled to Wednesday, April 4th at 8:30 PM. I will announce the topic and guest soon, so stay tuned……

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